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How to Deal With Anger
Learn how to deal with anger and turn it into joy. You are angry of a situation or of a person and your reaction is keeping it for yourself and getting depressed or having the anger explode and you shout and others turn away from you. There are several ways you can put an end to negative reactions.
One way to deal with anger is, if you get calm with means explained in the article ‘Calm Mind And Its Benefits’. You will stay calm and not get angry in the first place, as you are dealing with situations which used to make you angry in a very different way.
As long you are facing anger, you have to renovate each single case. One way to deal with anger is to express it. If you have the opportunity to shout without being heard by anyone, shout it out. Get into your car and drive away. You can shout being in thick traffic or drive to a deserted area. Another way to deal with anger is music. Switch on the radio and look for soothing music or have your look for a CD with classic music which is calming you down. Music from Mozart, Vivaldi, Bach and many more composers have a wonderful calming effect. As long as you are full of anger, you are not able to think objectively and you don’t see the situation clearly. The moment you see things with a calm mind, anger has vanished and you are able to solve the problem.
Another way to deal with anger is living the situation again in your imagination, but with a different outcome. Find a quite room, sit or lay down, close your eyes and breathe with long breaths. Breathe in for about two seconds and breathe out for about two seconds. Do that several times. Then imagine the situation until the moment you had a reason to get angry, but this time imagine the situation continue the way you expected or hoped that it would go on. Thank the people for having reacted in a different way as they actually did. Let the talk end in a very pleasant moment. See yourself and the other person smile or laugh. In your imagination things turned out the way you wanted. If the situation, which made you angry, still exists in the real world, you will deal with it with a much calmer mind.
If you are angry about a person, imagine this person and have a talk with him/her in this imagination. Discuss what you dislike and ask if they couldn’t change their behaviour. In some cases you might not want to make peace with a certain person. In this case, put him out of your imagination. The moment he comes into the scene, let him vanish, scratch him out. Or imagine that you sit in a movie theatre and this person is on the screen. Get up and leave the theatre and go to a place you enjoy.
Be prepared that if you let a person vanish in your imagination, he/she will also vanish in your real life. Don’t do this with people who are important to you. If you are angry about something one of your children did, imagine having a talk with them before you actually speak with them. If you imagine having a talk with your child about what has happened that made you angry, you will see all this from another perspective. If you then have a talk with the child in your reality, you will be calm and the result will be much better for both of you.
Be conscious of the fact that you create your reality. Make it a habit that when you go to bed, imagine a joyful situation, something you like. Imagine talks with people you like or people who don’t yet exist in your real life. Imagine yourself in situations you enjoy. In your imaginations you can go on vacation whenever you want. You can imagine yourself in any part of the world, of course also parts of the world where you haven’t yet been.
One way to deal with anger is to put an end to it for good with meditation. If you are often facing anger or not, I suggest you learn how to Meditate. If you meditate regularly, anger will be eliminated from your life and you will experience much more joy. With meditation you can turn your life around in a wonderful way. You will start to understand that what you perceive as your reality is only part of what there really is. Several weeks after I began to meditate I had my first out-of-body-experience. I got aware of the fact that my body is not me.
HH the Dalai Lama says: ‘Don’t hold on too much to material things.’ And he explains this from a scientific point of view. I repeat: Do not hold on too much to material things, because they are not as real as you believe they are. They are only particles in movement. With your thoughts and your frequency of vibration you make everything surrounding you form into a certain shape. As you can make things be perceived in your reality, you can make them vanish.
Turn your anger into joy and appreciate your being more.
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