Failure, Rejection and Criticism Are Part Of Our Lives
There is no one, who did not have quite a few failures in his life. There is no straight way through life. There are always ups and downs. There are obstacles and problems one has to face. Not all obstacles and problems are easy to handle, even if you give your best.
1. It is about how to overcome a failure and
2. Trying again or doing something differently.
Successful people say that they have failed quite a few times in their life, but they succeeded more often as they failed.
Successful people are problem solvers. They have their focus on thinking about a solution. A failure means for them to do it better or find another way to succeed. Most people are problem thinkers. Their thinking stays on the problem. For them a failure is a step back, where they stay.
Everyone is rejected sometimes in their lives. Even celebrities have to face rejection. Have you ever been rejected? Of course! No one is liked from everyone. Whenever you are rejected from someone, think of all the people, who appreciate you.
There are moments in life, when you forget about all the big and little successes. Your emotional frequency of vibration goes down, you feel bad and nothing work out that day. When this happens, do the following:
1. Take a moment, sit down, close your eyes and imagine something you enjoy. You could for example see yourself in a scene, where you have reached one of your big goals and see yourself celebrate. Or see yourself on vacation or shopping.
2. Call a friend, someone who likes you.
3. Go out that day and celebrate all successes of your life.
It is better to put your time to think about the good stuff and whisk away the not so good ones.
Are you ever worried about what people think about you? Let me tell you that most people don’t think very much and if they think, they mostly think of themselves.
When a woman is rejected from a man, she usually has to go through a time, which has to do with mourning. This means that she is in pain physically and mentally. This time goes bye. Some women do not stop focusing their thoughts on that man, who rejected them. This is the case, when they see him from time to time. Then the time of pain comes back. There is only one way to overcome the rejection and this is going out of the way of that man for at least two years.
Did you ever put off projects that involve any degree of risk, such as the risk of failure, rejection or criticism? You should make up your mind, because if you are putting off projects you lose the opportunity to win. If you want to win, you have to take risks.
Are you someone who starts things and does not finish when it gets difficult? Or do you belong to those people who do not stop until they reached their next goal? If you belong to the first group, you are missing the moment of victory and the opportunity of celebrating your success. Make up your mind that from now on you will finish everything you began and celebrate after you finished. Think of the celebration and not that something might be getting too difficult. And if it does get difficult, try harder and try again, until you have finished.
Do you have this little voice in your mind criticizing that what you do is not good enough? Tell this voice to shut up and tell it that you are great, and that it overlooks your greatness.
Are you afraid to try things, which you have never done before, because you are afraid to fail? Would you have done so from early childhood on, you would not even be able to read, walk or do anything! Think about what has happened that you stopped trying new things? Everything was difficult when you did it the first time. You could not walk right away. As you learned to walk you fall several times. When you were a kid and fall, you got up and continued walking as good as you could. You got up again and again and every time you walked a longer distance before you fall again. Next time when you have the opportunity doing something the first time, do it and when you fall, get up and try it again.
How do you feel when you are criticized? it is not easy to take criticism. To be critized happens to everyone. But not all people criticize you. And then you might be criticized for one thing and get compliments for another. A writer, for example, is criticized from some readers and told from others what a great writer he is. Would every writer stop writing, when he is criticized, there would not be any writers. And writers are usually criticized from some people for every book they wrote.
Do you feel upset when you do not meet the expectations of others? We can’t meet the expectations of everyone. Why lose time thinking of that? Think of people, who like what you do.
My tips:
1. Think that you are a great person, which you are as everyone is.
2. If you remember a time, when you failed, when you have been rejected or criticized or when you were afraid not meeting the expectations of others, make yourself comfortable, close your eyes and go through the situation, but this time let it end the most positive way you can imaginef. Do this whenever you remember a negative situation.
If you do #1 and #2 again and again, your subconscious mind will be newly reprogrammed. The result can be that you are not meeting people, who might reject or criticise you. If you enter a social event, you will walk in being assured that you are a wonderful person.
You will change your belief about yourself. It will get stronger each time you imagine that you succeeded and be appreciated Everything needs to be exercised, even a strong self esteem. It will get easier with each time you are facing a failure, rejection or criticism.
Listen to the “Improve Your Self Confidence 3A Subliminal” twice daily, until you feel and perceive positive changes in your life.
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